He got game??

A while ago I wrote a post where I mentioned in the opening that I have no game. I had Hilary, a friend/coworker of mine, read that post, and she immediately disagreed. I was floored.

See, I have always contended that I don’t have game. My idea of game is like what Will Smith’s character did in the movie Hitch. You know the scene where he saw Eva Mendez’s character for the first time and came up with a plan to rescue her from that lame dude that was trying to holla at her? Then he talks to her, piques her interest, and then walks off knowing that he just set himself up to win the game of life (because Eva Mendez is freakin fine). To me, that’s game. I don’t have that. If I did, we’d all have to pray that I’d exhibit the self-control to use it for good and not for evil. I don’t need to be out in these streets like that.

To Hilary, game is swag. It is essentially being able to talk to a lady and keep her interested. That’s not even kinda the same definition of game. We, as a group, spent the rest of our time at lunch that day arguing about discussing the differences in our definition of game. We came to no agreement.

So I bring the discussion to you. Fellas, what is your definition of game (tell me I’m right)? Ladies, what is your definition of game (tell me I’m right)? Leave your comments below, and I’ll prove to Hilary that I’m always right we’ll settle this once and for all.

Until next time…

-Erik (@WalkSays)

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    • Anonymous
      May 2, 2013

      I think when a man has game, it’s when he’s being his handsome self w/nice looking clothes, personality, and winning smile that “no” lady could turn down. Any lady would look twice. Oh yea! gotta smell good too. “GAME ON”

    • Ruth Jeremiah
      May 2, 2013

      I’ll give this a go. You’re right in saying that game is not swag, although those who run game usually have an element of swag. With game there are players, opponents, and the end result to win. That end result could be a number of things such as the phone number etc. Strategies are involved as well.

      Game can be so confusing and messy and just straight up whack, whether it’s good or bad game because you wonder if intentions are genuine.

      Hope this makes sense.

    • Kimberly
      May 2, 2013

      A man can have swag and still have no game. Those are two totally different things. Swag is your style, your way of life, how you carry yourself. Game is more of a mental thing. Having game calls for you to be a wise thinker in the area of dating. You can’t approach each woman the same way. You have to observe your prey and quickly determine what is the best way to approach her. If you approach her in the wrong way, you have to quickly switch it up and come with a new tactic. Having game requires your to use your mouth (verbally) to appeal to a woman. Once you have gained that woman’s interested you have to come up with ways to keep her somewhat satisfied until you decide if you want to keep her around and/or play some more with new people. Should you decide to play some more with new people, your game (mind frame) has to be so on point that you can balance out each woman, by keeping them somewhat happy, and never get caught. You know your game is really good if get caught and she still desires to be with you and accept you trifling ways lol…That my friend, is having game lol 🙂

      • Erik
        May 2, 2013

        So is game bad? Something only used by dudes looking to play a bunch of women?

        • Kimberly
          May 3, 2013

          Game could be good or bad, it depends on how you use it. Each person has a different opinion on this. My personal opinion is that it can be good if your just using your game to easily create dialogue between yourself and another young lady just to get to know each other better. But if your using game just to play around with different women or toy with someone’s emotions, then it’s not good. Someone else might disagree with me which is why I said it all depends on the individual… I will say this, nice guys don’t usually have game, they prefer to take a more humble approach, and there are some women such as myself who value that. I have all brothers and growing up, I watch them run game on women in negative ways all the time, which is how I can immediately spot someone attempting to run game. As a result of my upbringing I prefer something totally different, the nice guy. So just because you don’t have game doesn’t mean it’s a bad thing, there is always an exception to every rule and you can find a woman who isn’t looking for a man to spit game to her.

    • Zemirah
      May 5, 2013

      Game is your ability to flirt or hit on a member of the opposite sex. Game can also mean a guy with confidence, charm and attitude. Game= strategy for getting women or a men.


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