Life & Family

Skinny Legs.

The worst part of finding (or being found by) the love of your life is skinny calves. Seriously, that’s the worst part. You work out daily, weekly, monthly, whenever you have absolutely nothing else in the world to do on the entire flat earth, and still ...

A Yearlong Challenge.

Happy New Year from Tha Well.  It’s still January, so that still applies… It has been a while since I’ve posted anything.  In the time since my last post, I completed a challenge that I set for myself. That challenge, which began in No ...

Seeking Approval.

Why do the opinions of other people and their approval matter so much to us? In a way I envy my grandparents because they speak their minds freely and don’t care who likes them and doesn’t. My grandmother always says that she’s too old to sugarcoat ...

Growing Out of Single-Life.

At what age do men and women start to seriously look for companionship? As I enter my thirties I’ve noticed that the conversations have changed from carelessly dating to settling down. Should we all be concerned about the possibility of finding the one? ...

Great Combos.

So today (October 8, 2015) marks my parents’ 38th wedding anniversary. 38 freakin years. That’s a long time, bruh. I mean, that’s 365 days times 38, plus a day for each leap year in there. According to my calculations, that’s 78 ka ...

Good Enough.

This is a quick post, but I just had some random thoughts. Have you ever felt just not good enough? I have. All the time. I’m not sure what it is, but my entire life I’ve felt like I wasn’t good enough at anything. There has, really, nev ...

Farewell to Kansas City.

The date was December 18, 2006. Two days earlier I had just walked across the stage at Oklahoma State University. But the celebration of my graduation was short-lived. I was busy packing up my apartment in Stillwater, OK and moving to Kansas City, MO to ...

Ugh….

So last week I set myself up for a post this week by tweeting the following: It’s Thursday and I’ve got nothing new at ThaWell. Got a good one coming next week. In the meantime, here’s a repost: http://t.co/SvEbMqy4zT — W (@WalkSays) M ...

Can You Do Anything?.

Last week, Deshawnt wrote a post about what it takes to be successful. Although I don’t agree with the entirety of his thesis, I can totally see his point and his reasoning. Life is hard, full of ups and downs and disappointments. I have had plenty ...

We are north, eh.

I think. I am moving. To Canada. Yep, that’s my decision. Never mind the fact that it is currently approximately infinity below zero (Celsius, Fahrenheit, and Kelvin), and I haven’t managed to work “Oh” and “Eh” into my normal speech pattern, ...

New Year, New Rules.

Happy New Year (SN: you should stop saying “Happy New Year” after January 2nd, but I digress)… With this new year, many have made resolutions; stop smoking, eat healthier, read more, work harder and the big one work out more.  Many of t ...

Welcome to 2015.

It’s 2015! Honestly, that doesn’t even feel right to say. 2015 still sounds like the future. Like, distant future. Like, the flying cars kind of distant future. But it is upon us nevertheless. As I watched the seconds tick away on 2014, I almo ...

Five (or so) Big Deals.

It’s that time of the year.  Time for everyone to roll out a “Top Ten” list.  Everything from beer to foods to vehicles get a rating.  It gets nauseating, but does allow for everyone else to argue how the list is blatantly wrong.  Th ...

All Day Lessons.

Minnesota Vikings Running Back Adrian Peterson is back in the news. First there was the drug test issue, while on probation for child endangerment. To recap, while taking a mandated drug test, the embattled superstar admitted to “smoking a little we ...

Hey, kids! It’s almost Halloween!.

That’s right, kids, it’s time for Halloween. That magical time of year when kids dress up as superheroes, grown men dress up like idiots, and grown women have an excuse to dress up as a sexy nurse or a sexy maid or a sexy teacher or some othe ...

My Life Matters.

The following video was created by Louis Byrd of Mellie Blue Branding. It’s a response to the killing of Michael Brown in Ferguson, MO, but it also speaks to the value of the lives of black men in general. It also features one of our writers here at ...

Fatherhood: Redux.

Happy Friday all! As you know, we will be going through some changes in the near future.  So keep your eyes on the lookout for new and exciting things! ***** In late June, my wife and I welcomed our second child (a non-masculine child) named Lydia. We ha ...

Summer so far.

  Greetings. Can you believe that the summer is almost over??  I say that because I have classes that start back in a mere 4 weeks. This felt like a great time to recap what has been an interesting summer so far: Again, the States catch soccer fever ...

The Ubiquity of Racism in Dating.

The Sterling saga continues. Yesterday, Donald Sterling, former owner of the Los Angeles Clippers, announced that he intends to sue the NBA for $1 billion. This of course came after the wake of his racist remarks that got him banned from the league in the ...

Road Rage Spawns.

Do you have road rage? I don’t… Okay, maybe I do have a little, but it’s always justified (as if yelling at cars whose drivers cannot hear you is ever justified). Some people just drive like idiots. They drive like they’re the only ...

Trophies For All.

A short conversation that occurred the other day on Tha Well led to my discovery of Babi Daddi Apparel.  Per the website, “babi DADDI Represent [sic] The Daddi’s Who DO Take Care Of Their Kids”.  The site has a gallery and a Youtube pa ...

The Atlanta Weather Debacle.

  So it snowed in Atlanta earlier this week. A place that doesn’t normally see the falling white stuff was about to get hit by a monster winter storm. It was a big deal, jack. They even named it Winter Storm Leon, just so everybody knew it was ...

You smell that? *deeeeeep inhale*.

That, my friends, is the smell of a fresh new year! Well, it’s kinda fresh, by now it’s nine days old. But it’s still fresh-ish, and that counts… Anyway, welcome to 2014: the year of unbridled optimism… or something. In all s ...

Happy New Year from Tha Well!.

Happy New Year! If you couldn’t tell, we’ve taken a break here on ThaWell.net. We’ve been enjoying time with family and friends. We will return next week with more conversation, opinion and insight. Hope you enjoyed Christmas, and had a ...

What’s in a Name?.

The names that parents come up with for their children these days seem to increasingly stranger and stranger.  Jayden, Kayden, and Jaylen seem to be the most popular unusual names; names of unique combinations, interesting origin, and profound meaning se ...

Only 14 More Days….

Fellas, the stockings have been hung. The tree has been lit and the season of giving is upon us. It is, indeed, the most wonderful time of the year. Remember, there are just 14 days to break up with your girl before Christmas. Yep. You don’t wanna d ...

Dating on a Budget.

So last week Deshawnt wrote a post about smart guys not paying for dates and I applaud him for it. It’s tough outchea. Dating can get really expensive and for a lot of us brothers who ain’t major in “Getting Them Duckets” its hard ...

Why Smart Men Don’t Pay For Dates.

In a recent study of men and women conducted by nydailynews, men still pay for most dating expenses even if the couples had been together for a while.  The results also showed that 2 out of 3 men think women should help pay for a date, but do not allow i ...

Regret is freakin useless.

Have you ever done or said something, and then immediately wished you hadn’t? It could have been for any number of valid reasons that you regretted your decision. Maybe you hurt someone’s feelings. Maybe your feelings were hurt. Maybe you put ...

Awful, awful jokes.

Whaddup? Have you ever been sitting with a group of coworkers, and one of them tells an awful joke? Like the kind of joke that leaves you thoroughly confused as to what just happened? I recently experienced just that. Here’s how the story goes: Afte ...

Life, man… Life..

You remember when life was simple? Chances are that when you were a little kid, you had no worries. Your family may have been going through, but you had no idea. Man, I miss that. There’s an innocence about childhood that is unmistakable and irrepla ...

The Flashback (A Love Note).

This weekend marks 6 years of marriage for my wife and I. Before getting married, we dated (off and on) for over 6 years.  Before dating, we hung out as really good friends from the same local church.  I’ve known her for over 15 years.  Obviously ...

Categorizing Attraction.

I recently had an interesting lunch conversation with a couple of friends (one is male, the other is female). It started when the male friend saw a woman coming down the escalator toward where the three of us were seated. As she got closer, he said aloud, ...

Next Year Y’all Gotta Chill.

Yesterday was Father’s Day, one of my favorite “holidays” of the year. I love seeing pictured and stories of the influence some men had on their sons and daughters. Its also a bittersweet day for me too, because I ain’t have a fath ...

Boxed In.

This weekend I was chatting with a friend over twitter about my desire to move into Dallas proper and get out of the suburb of Arlington. I personally enjoy city living. I enjoy density. I like the thought of people living stacked on top of each other, no ...

Trapped Chasing a Relationship Myth.

Many people often find it difficult to find a relationship partner.  We all know that 50% of relationships in America end in divorce, and it has been estimated that only 17% of couples that aren’t divorced are happily married (see my article on marriag ...

OKC is in my heart.

No matter how far away I move, no matter how long I’ve been gone, I’ll always be an Oklahoman. OKC is home and always will be. For all four of us at ThaWell, tornadoes were a common occurrence while growing up. Every spring brought the same n ...

5 Tips to Land Your Dream Job.

 Have you found your dream job? That one thing that makes you look forward to Monday mornings? That activity that has you WILLINGLY give 50, 60, 70, or even 80 hours per week with no complaint because you love it? Have you found it yet? If not, then keep ...

Love Diagnosis.

At one point in my life…for a solid two years, House was my absolute favorite television show. I have a thing for medical dramas and “who-done-its” and House, in my opinion, perfectly merged the two tropes. Every season there would be a ...

He got game??.

A while ago I wrote a post where I mentioned in the opening that I have no game. I had Hilary, a friend/coworker of mine, read that post, and she immediately disagreed. I was floored. See, I have always contended that I don’t have game. My idea of g ...

100 years and counting….

 The date is April 17, 1913. Gasoline cost $0.08 per gallon. The average wage in the U.S. is $1,296 per year. You can buy a car for less than $500 and a house for less than $3500. Woodrow Wilson has just taken office as the President of the United States ...

Quick observations from a wedding.

Being the gangsta that I am, I usually run with a crew. The cast of characters in my crew have changed over the years depending on where I am in life metaphorically and physically, but I’ve usually always managed to get a few other folks to engage in ne ...

Grown up decisions suck.

Remember when life decisions were easy? Should I wear the green sweater or the red one? Should I use the blue crayon or periwinkle (Shout out to crayons for educating me on what periwinkle is)? Should I bring my lunch to school tomorrow or take my chances ...

Legacy.

Two weeks ago I said that I would expound upon why I’ve been missing so many Fridays… The day after the super Bowl, my Granny suffered a massive stroke.  On Sort bowl Sunday. She was experiencing shortness of breath, and feeders to receive di ...

The Girl of My Dreams.

Fellas… Have you ever met that girl that’s just too amazing for words? That one that’s just so fly she makes you forget your name, and so fine that you’d be content to live the rest of your life as a blind man because you’ll never see anythi ...

How Many Of Us Have Them?.

The older you get, the harder it is to make friends. A child can’t help but make friends. Even the weird kid who eats glue and smells like (non human) urine can meet a few folks who enjoy the taste of Seabiscuit too. Even in college I had no trouble ...

The Embarrassment Project [Update].

I’m going to try something for the entire month of February. I am going to purposefully put myself in situations where there is a high probability that I will be embarrassed. A high chance that whatever position I put myself in will blow up in my fa ...

Passion.

I gotta admit a problem that I have and you may have noticed it here on the website the past few weeks. I have had no inspiration for any kind of article. Actually, I haven’t had inspiration for much in my life. Do you know what its like to walk aro ...

Sick Leave.

I’m out sick today y’all.  I was working on this post that would actually explain the meaning of life too. Dag. Well, anyway I’m going to post up a video by Propaganda about something that I struggle with all the time. Being present. I ...

Year Old Eyes.

Oh my goodness, I posted on time this week! A lot has been going on around my way recently.  We’re still trying to sell our house, and coming off of a vacation and the Thanksgiving holiday, I just don’t feel like doing anything.  None of tha ...

Lose-Lose-Win?.

This post is pretty short, but I’ve missed a couple of posts, partly for good reason.  Last week I spent the weekend on vacation, enjoying some time away from work and from my crazy neighborhood.  Which leads me to the point of this post. A few weeks ...

The Big Bad Break-up.

First off, let me make it clear that this post is not a testimonial. I’m a firm believer in not putting my own business out in the street, throwing myself under the bus as well as anyone else involved. I respect the women I’ve dated far too mu ...

Let’s Talk About Marriage, pt. 1.

I’ll let you in on a little secret, there has been a little talk about marriage around Tha Well here lately.  No, there haven’t been any rings bought (at least I don’t think), but just general discussion about the first ministry.  What I decided t ...

Do Soulmates Exist?.

This question has come up during the course of many a conversation for me (not always posed by me). This most recent time, it was posed by a friend of mine during a lunch conversation at work. The two of us were talking to a female coworker who is plannin ...

The Game of Marriage.

What is marriage in the year 2012?  A lot of what I’ve seen lately has made me question the state of marriage in America even more than the 50% divorce stats.  Add to that all of the ‘Bachelorette,’ VH1-type shows, and you see how much ...

Lessons from a 1-year old.

There’s a lot you can learn from a baby.  Things such as -Go ahead and cry.  Someone will come and pick you up after a while. My daughter often falls down.  Whether she trips over something or just stumbles, she’s usually on the ground.  O ...

Life can be frustrating.

Sometimes life sucks. Just when you reach a mountaintop, it’s like a huge (and seemingly unnecessary) gust of wind knocks you down to your lowest valley. Every morning you wake up, you’re immediately greeted with the weight of the day/week/mon ...

If you build it….

Earlier this week I talked about some of my favorite tracks to bump when I’m banging out supersets.   And then Erik wrote about some of his reasons for staying is shape. So I figure I’d keep this fitness train rolling along. One of the things ...

Save Money, Travel Cheap.

Traveling during the summertime can be a real pain.  Plane tickets are so expensive and, in this economy, every penny counts.  Here are a few ways to save on travel during the remainder of your summer months. ŸŸ1.   Book early.  If you are afforded ...